Monday, January 31, 2011

Misc Monday with a headache

Miscellany Monday @ lowercase letters

This weekend was wonderful! Blissfully warm and wonderful, I even sat on the back porch a drank a cup of tea wearing flip flops. 

a nice cup of teaa cup of tea and an itty bitty baby bump

But today it's gray and rainy and rather dismal and I have a pretty bad headache - like just about every other day this week. I should be sneaking in a little cat nap before it's time to get the kids from school but I could not let today go by without posting my random Monday thoughts.

{one} this has been the week I've "popped" at least just a little. My itty bitty preggy belly is now out there for everyone to see. I still think I look chubby instead of pregnant but that's pretty much the way it will be until I get to my third trimester, I guess! Everyone pops at different stages in their pregnancy and I'm a late one! Which is nice because then I don't get asked "haven't you had that baby yet?!" no, I don't get asked that at all.

{two} another wonderful thing about warm weather is salads. I think my family is just about ready to be done with soups. I made one just about every week this winter which has been wonderful, but I'm ready to move on to salads. I made a really great one for lunch on Sunday with lunchmeat, hard boiled eggs, orange bell peppers, broccoli, tomatoes, cucumber, golden apples, nectarine & strawberry. It was so yummy! For the kids I just put the individual ingredients in slightly bigger pieces on their plates. They might not like salad but they LOVE a veggie plate!

{three} over the weekend my littles thought it was great fun to dump out the contents of the big plastic toy container that I (try to) keep in their room and use it as a toy. It's pretty much the only thing that they played with all weekend long. They sat in it and on it, hid under it, jumped off it - tried to whack each other with it... drove me crazy but at the same time made me smile - don't kids just love the simplest things?! Yeah - sometimes - other times it's the super-annoying loud toy with gizmos and gadgets out the wazoo or the toy with a bazillion pieces - but the most lasting ones are the simple ones.

{four} another wonderful thing that happened this weekend was grocery shopping. Yes - grocery shopping - but here are the two magical little words that made this so special - by myself. I shopped for an entire weeks worth of groceries for the first time in a looong time. Usually the little man and I run in and get just what we need for the next couple days. It's not ideal but it's how I get by. Going by myself and getting enough for a whole week was wonderful! While I was there I ran into one of my girl's teachers from school, she asked me if this was my routine. I almost laughed when I said that I'd just run out of everything and had to go to the store. Sometimes I think people assume that because I have sort of a large family that I must be this super-organized super-mom who runs her life on an amazingly well-tuned routine and makes macaroni and cheese from scratch. I am so not that person. Maybe baby number five will change that...

probably not.

{five} kool-aid. Do you remember that stuff? I used to drink it when I was a kid. Every once in a while I pick up a little packet for mine... Well, we had an empty juice bottle (I had tried the Trop50 Apple Juice - SO GROSS!!!) and one of the kids filled it half-way with water and wanted to carry it around the house and shake it up. I said "hmmm... I think I have a packet of kool-aid in here somewhere, let's shake that up." so we made some pink lemonade flavored kool-aid - I was super-proud of myself for figuring out how to pour the sugar into the tiny opening in the juice bottle - I used a plastic baggie with a corner cut to make a make-shit funnel. And we drank all of it in one day. Mostly me.

{six} Have you heard the new song from Andrew Peterson dancing in the minefields? It is so good. If you haven't go listen to it now.

Okay - there's the alarm on my cell phone, it's time to pick up the kids from school!

Friday, January 28, 2011

Flashback Friday: my baby girl

Summer 2003
This is Emma when she was a baby - such a sweet baby!

When I found out I was pregnant with her I cried - not with joy, but with utter terror. I'd wanted to have a sibling for Beth, but the week Emma was conceived we were moving from Georgia to Montana for a ministry opportunity. We had no money and the ministry was very unstable and stressful. We were living an hour away from just about all civilization and I wondered how in the world we would survive the birth of another baby, we were just barely making it with the three of us.

But everything worked out. By the time Emma was born we were back in Georgia, living with family and she was just the sweetest, cuddliest baby ever and is now an amazing little girl!

Sometimes I feel a bit freaked out about this new baby. Five kids just sounds like a lot of kids to me. We were walking through a parking lot the other day and the hubs and I both were holding hands with two kids each and I though about how when this new baby was born we could be totally out-numbered and we wouldn't just have our hands full we would have more than that. But I know that this is all going to work out and am looking forward to meeting the new baby.

As crazy as it sounds I sometimes think I can feel this new little one moving around inside. It is insanely early to be able to feel anything. I am just in awe all over again that there is a new little person growing inside of me - a little one who is going to grow into his or her own little self. It blows my mind every time that I can grow a little person inside of me.

I have also dreamed about this new baby for the last three nights - in ever dream the baby has been a girl. Hmmm. I'm not going to go out and buy pink onesies but I think it's really odd that in all of my dreams this baby is a girl. Really makes me look forward to having an ultrasound.
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Monday, January 24, 2011

Hello Monday!

Miscellany Monday @ lowercase letters

{one} I might have completely lost my mind but I am so glad that today is Monday. Granted, I didn't feel like that this morning when my alarm went off - I stayed up way too late watching Hawaii 50 with the Hubs after the big football game last night  - but I am so happy to be home with my little man back into our routine. I especially love our quiet, sleepy afternoons. It is so hard to read to my little man with three big kids constantly interrupting and/or making noise. So call me crazy, but I'm happy it's Monday!

{two} Yesterday was a computer-free day, well for the most part - after the kids went to bed I worked on my class for a bit, but computer-free days are so great, especially for someone like me who spends a lot of time on the computer every day blogging and teaching an online photography class. I wish I could say that I got a lot done but I really didn't. I took a nice long nap and read a cookbook and generally just hung out. It was wonderful!

{three} Over the weekend the kids glitterized the house! You may have seen the commercials before Christmas for the Barbie Glitterizer based on the recent Fashion Barbie movie. Katie-Abigail was given one for Christmas and she loves it! She keeps her favorite Barbie of the week in it with a few favorite accessories but she has never been allowed to use the glitter part of it, until this weekend when the hubs let the kids use the glitterizer while I was napping. Now you might think that a nine year old is perfectly capable of following the instructions for the glitterizer and keep the mess to a minimum - unless you distinctly remember being nine and all of the mischief you got into at that age. So needless to say they managed to spread glitter from one end of the house to the other. Beth even had to take a bath - she was that covered in glitter!

{four} If I were stranded on a desert island and could only bring two jars of food, I would bring Chocolate Peanut Butter from Peanut Butter & Co and Tostitos Queso Bean Dip- I could eat a whole jar of it by myself without any tortilla chips. I put it in everything - pasta, eggs, sandwiches, salad - it's awesome. Well, on Sunday night I started making Mac & Cheese when I realized that I had run out of butter, so I put some Bean Dip in it and the kids LOVED it! I don't know if it's necessarily healthier than butter but it added protein and made the mac more filling!

{five} I got a DVD from the Library for my little man called "Peep and the Big Wide World" - he loves it and I think it is really cute, it's narrated by Joan Cusack - which is brilliant. There are cute segments at the end of kids being creative and scientific, that is my favorite part. Though if you've seen it, tell me - what is up with the purple duck?

15 weeks

{six} I'm 15 week pregnant now and still just barely starting to show, it always takes me a while to pop. It makes me want to wear a shirt that says "baby on board" across my belly, or something like that because I feel like I just look fat, but that is a whole different post. I am just about starting to need some stretchier pants though. I sold pretty much all of my maternity clothes at a consignment shop after little man was born. Time to start all over again! Not even sure where to start. I love maternity clothes but I hate spending the money.

{seven} This baby has no name. The hubs and I are not even close to deciding on one. Beth calls it "the creature" because she doesn't want another sibling - but we had to ban that name because we don't want her to reinforce her negativity. Emma calls it "New Baby" and still kisses my belly every night - it's so sweet! I mentioned maybe naming the baby Layla, if it's a girl and the hubs didn't automatically throw it out - so that name is looking good. If it's a boy he might be stuck with Eli - it's the only name I've thought of and not hated, but that's just 'cause I heard it on the show Lie to Me which is a lousy thing to name your child after. I'd like to host some sort of baby name link-up, but haven't been able to figure out how that would work out. If you have any ideas or would be interested in linking up to chat about baby names leave a comment and let me know!!

{eight} I really don't like packing lunches. I didn't like packing a lunch for the hubs back when we were newlyweds and I don't like packing lunches for my kids today but what I really don't like is all the complaining. So this weekend I finally did something about it. I sat down with my kids and we came up with a plan for lunches. I bought a few tiny plastic reusable containers and posted our plan on the fridge. Hopefully it will help. Here's the plan, for any of you who are interested.  Every day they also get a Capri Sun 100%  juice pouch:
Monday: Peanut Butter & Banana  sandwiches with apple slices and yogurt.
Tuesday: Turkey & Cheese sandwiches with cubes of cantaloupe and a cheese string.
Wednesday: Turkey, Lettuce & Tomato wrap up with Carrots and Broccoli heads with Ranch dressing.
Thursday: Peanut Butter & Honey sandwich with Bananas and Yogurt
Friday: Turkey roll-ups (slices of turkey rolled up), cherry tomatoes and cheese strings.
What are some of your favorite things to pack for lunches?

I'm linking up with the awesome Carissa Graham at Lowercase Letters - really loved this post about what day to day life is like at her house!

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

my week in cell phone pics

Well, I don't have a full week of photos on my cell phone but I have a few to share!

Emma lost her third tooth!!
My Emma lost her tooth!

to: Tooth Fairy
and she wrote the cutest little note to me :)

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The kids were finally able to go back to school after a couple snow days - we were so ready to get back into our routine.

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Our first trip out was to go to the Library, I just love this shot! We read every day before nap time so I'm always glad to get new books!

Josiah got a bad cold and was a grumpy little guy...

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But brownies make mommy feel better :)

Monday, January 17, 2011

Misc Monday: Regression

Miscellany Monday @ lowercase letters

{one: diapers again} Last week I bought what I hoped to be my last pack of diapers for a little while. After my last rant about diapers the hubs started encouraging the little man to use the potty more. That made all the difference in the world!! Suddenly we were having accident-free days and he was even taking himself to the potty! I thought we were to the point of no return. Key words here being "I thought". The hubs went out of town for a couple days and the little man made a full-on 180 regression. After five accidents in one hour I'd had it and put him in a diaper. He spent the next day in a diaper too. Mention the words "potty" or "underwear" and he throws himself on the floor and cries like going potty is the worst form of torture a three year old can be asked to endure. I remind myself that the last child I potty trained was pooping in her underwear until she was four but has not had even one single accident at school and eventually this little guy will be potty trained too. Tomorrow it's back to the grindstone.

{two: more regression} While we are on the topic of regression my three year old is also asking to be carried around every waking moment. Of course I say no a lot of the time but I also try to give him some of the extra attention and cuddles that he's asking for. But I tell you what, as I'm carrying him around on top of my tiny baby bump I pray that he gets over this phase before the new baby comes.

{three: small miracles} One a more positive note I had a small miracle occur tonight. After dinner the kids wanted to watch Toy Story 3 so I had my oldest do her homework in the kitchen with me, I washed dishes and supervised homework and the kids watched their movie without fighting or interrupting my dish washing every five minutes per usual. I got all of my dishes washed and big sister got all her homework done by the time the movie was over with minimal interruption. That is a small miracle and I am celebrating it!

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{four: snow days} Like every other state in the USA (except Florida) we had a snow storm last week. (See photos here) It made for one very fun and relaxing snow day and one bored (kids) and exhausting (me) day. I think it was hardest on the dog though, who refused to go outside to pee. The first day of snow she would go into the kitchen, I would open the door for her to go out and then she would pee right near the door so after that I would have to pick her up (while she was in another room so she wouldn't pee on me) and take her outside. She was too afraid of  the cold to walk out the door herself! Poor baby.

Friday, January 14, 2011

Another Flashback

Josiah 9-21

I was looking back at some old photos and found this one of Josiah when he was just three days old. LOVE this photo!!

Flashback Friday: Potty Training

The last two weeks we've been working on potty training the little man. Which got me thinking about potty training my other kids.

I started putting Beth on the potty when she was about one year, but I quickly realized that I was not going to be one of those "potty trained before they're two" moms.

watching movies
I started potty training in earnest when she turned two. Here she is sitting on a training toilet watching movies drinking water from her sippy cup. (This is not a good potty-training practice, by the way!) I potty trained that child in earnest from the time she turned two until the time she turned three.
I spent so many days cleaning up accidents. She would pee and not even tell me she was wet! I gave her M&Ms. The first time she pooped in the potty we took her to McDonalds and bought her a balloon. She just didn't seem to care. She would be so involved in her play that she would just go - wherever, whenever, whatever she was wearing.
potty party
I had never felt so much peer pressure in my life! Most of her two and a half year old friends were potty trained. I would sit with other moms at MOPS and we would talk about potty training and I would feel like the bad mom of the group who hadn't been able to potty train her kid. It was the most frustrating this I'd encountered in parenthood... so far.
Summer 2005 @ Flint River
Needless to say when Emma turned two (and I was seven months pregnant) I didn't even think about potty training.
Don't take my picute - silly mama!sisters 12-06
The day after her third birthday I took her to get her three year check up, I had this wonderful motherly pediatrician who I just adored, she checked Emma and said "yep! You're too big for diapers now!" We went home, got out the big girl underwear and she was potty trained in about a week. She was the easiest kid to potty train ever.

I thought I had it all figured out.

I didn't.

I did the exact same thing for Katie-Abigail. I started letting her sit on the potty before bath time when she was about two:
silly girl

I started potty training in earnest when she turned three:
a favorite
But she still had accidents with her poop regularly until she was four.  But now that she goes to school she has not had even one accident.

So now it's time to do it all over again.

Josiah has good days and bad days...
He'll get the hang of it eventually.

Here are a few general tips I've picked up along the way...

Stay positive - which is hard when you go through a week of clothes in one day, but always be encouraging and positive. Accidents are normal, sitting on the potty and not doing anything is normal. Don't discipline for accidents. Apparently potty training is a really stressful process for kids - try not to add your stress to the equation. If they aren't too keen about sitting on the potty, offer incentives like stickers, m&ms, skittles etc. this has turned many "no I don't want to go potty" conversations into more willing and positive ones.
Be consistent - once you put them in underwear, keep them in underwear as much of the time as you possibly can. If Mommy and Daddy work together to potty train it will be even more successful, also try to maintain as much continuity between any other care givers and home as you can.
Keep it in perspective - it might take your child a week to potty train, it might take them two years. Both are normal. But eventually your child will be potty trained. Think down the road a few years and remember that the important thing is that your child eventually becomes potty trained not when or how quickly they are trained.
Talk to your doctor -  there are a few medical conditions which may contribute to your child having difficulty with their potty training. For example, Katie-Abigail had pretty severe constipation which made her bowl movements more difficult to control. Once we helped her get regular she was much less prone to accidents. So it's a good idea to discuss this with your pediatrician.

Have you got any tips to share?

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

2nd Trimester How I LOVE thee!!

13 weeks
13 Weeks

I'm really loving my second trimester. Feeling better overall and able to make it through the day without a nap. Just in time for my photography class and I am so glad! I've had several late nights working on class stuff.

Pregnancy clothes: Not yet! So thankful for low rise jeans.

Weight gained: I don't know -  I threw my scale away a couple years ago.

Boy or girl? Don't know. I tend to refer to the baby as a girl but I think the hubs is hoping for a boy. I will be thrilled either way.

Baby Names: Haven't really talked about it seriously yet. The hubs is waiting to find out if we are having a boy or girl.

Cravings? None really, though I once I start to eat pasta it's hard to stop! and I eat yogurt every day. At the beginning of my pregnancy I wanted chicken biscuts. Half way through my first trimester all I wanted was burgers.

Belly shot:

But this is what I look like most of the time so you really can't tell:

If you are pregnant too I would LOVE to hear from you! How far along are you?

Sunday, January 9, 2011

Cream Cheese Banana French Toast

Beth 2005

(Unfortunately we ate these up too quickly to get a photo! So here is a photo from 2005 of Beth eating French Toast- I love it!) 

This is such a nicely well-balanced breakfast (or we like to have French Toast for dinner!) a good mix of protein, fruit and bread.

I'm not a huge fan of French Toast, so I'm constantly experimenting with a small batch of French Toast - I think I found something I really like! I stumbled across the idea of stuffed French Toast looking through a food magazine about five years ago and heard about Banana French Toast on one of those restaurant shows on TV. This is the best of both worlds!

In a food processor, blender or Magic Bullet place a banana broken into 1/8ths + 2 eggs + 1/2 cup milk + a sprinkle of salt, cinnamon and a couple drops of vanilla extract. Gently pulse it a few times to break up the banana and blend the ingredients. Pour into a 9x9 square pan or pie plate.

Spread a slice of bread with a thin layer of cream cheese. Sprinkle with Cinnamon. Spread a little more cream cheese on top of the cinnamon to get a nice medium-thick filling, top with another slice of bread.

Place the bread in the pan of eggs and turn to coat (if you like more custardy french toast let the bread sit in the egg for a minute) then toast it on a warm, lightly buttered, griddle over medium heat. Turn to cook on the other side. Serve with warm maple syrup or honey, top with slices of banana.

Friday, January 7, 2011

Flashback Friday

Okay, so it's really Saturday... but yesterday my little man had a cough and wanted me to hold him all day long - so I was pretty scatter-brained and didn't get any of the posts up for Friday that I wanted to on this blog or on my photography blog. I'm so thankful that blogger lets you manipulate the dates for posts! ;)

I knew when I started this blog that I wanted to participate in these awesome "Flashback Friday" link-ups... picking just one thing to link up has been harder than I thought it would be!

I've been reading IROCKSOWHAT more regularly lately - and reading about her struggles with her son reminds me of when my oldest was that age - it was such a crazy stage of life! She was (and still is) very strong-willed and independent. From the time she weaned herself at about nine months she behaved like I was an unnecessary inconvenience in her life. Sometimes she still does. How about this - my new year's resolution for after she turned two was to work on my relationship with her and try to nurture more intimacy. I've never had to do that with any of my other kids. It was that hard.

So here is a little flashback to when Beth was about 18 months.

Spring 2003
Here is Beth when she was about 14 months. That is me in the green dress - pregnant with baby #2!

Spring 2003
Here is Beth again - I have a bunch of photos of her knocking on the door or trying to get out of the apartment. She also loved to put her coat on!

Summer 2003
Once she transitioned out of eating babyfood she became a super-picky/messy eater. She insisted on feeding herself everything. She'd get grits in her hair and applesauce all over her face. She ate mostly bananas and cereal bars and yogurt. One day I'd open her banana and peel it for her, the next day I'd do the same and she'd throw a temper-tantrum because she wanted to open it herself.

Summer 2003
She loved to be read to and to pretend that she was reading herself. We read Dr. Seuss "Mr. Brown Can Moo, Can You?" several times every day. The Hubs and I could practically read it in our sleep. (It was such a big surprise to me when baby #2 hated being read to. She would always wiggle to get down. She's a great reader now, though!)

Summer 2003
And then baby sister came along.

The best piece of advice that I got during that season of transition was to not keep them apart. I learned how resilient babies are and Beth learned to be more gentle. It worked pretty well. Nap times were the hardest. Two babies crying at the same time and I'm alone in a little apartment, dealing with my first bout of serious depression. It was hard.

Blue eyes
Eventually it got a easier. We developed a workable schedule for the two of them so I still had some quite time during the morning during their first round of naps.

Beth & Mommy Summer 2003
The kids got older.

Beth turned three and the whole world got a whole lot brighter and easier and the hardest season of life I'd ever been through turned into one of my all-time favorite seasons.

I really miss this. Life was really simple, at times incredibly boring. But good. There was no school. No pressure to get stuff done at a certain time. Discipline was a bit simpler - though more constant. We had this horrible disgusting looking couch that was fabulous for jumping on and we lived in a tiny little duplex but we were happy there. We read books and played outside and went to the Library to MOPS and sang and danced along with the Wiggles and snuggled up with Kipper. Life is good now too - but I loved the simplicity of that season of life.

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Surviving the first 11 weeks

11 weeks

I think I have finally gotten out of my first trimester. Yesterday was a good day - the first day I didn't feel nauseous! Whoot! Whoot! And this whole week I've been feeling a bit better.

So how did I get through my first trimester? I have a few tips I thought I'd share:

Eat well. You may not feel much like eating but a bit of yogurt or a PB&J can go a long way. My mom's theory about morning sickness is that it is linked to to blood sugar and with this pregnancy I can say that that has definitely been true. Late mornings would be difficult until I ate a little snack, even just a fruit smoothie drink would help a lot. Then one night we had pancakes and I felt so sick afterwards. I tried to pick foods that would not give me a sugar high and then drop - yogurt, cheese, peanut butter, avocado, whole grain oatmeal, and whole wheat bread. These are all good choices. Salads and soups make me feel good. Not eating or eating sweets makes me feel terrible. I also have had a little bit of constipation already - something I've experienced with all of my pregnancies at some point or another. Choosing foods like fruit, veggies and whole grains are really good for helping that. Remember that when you are pregnant you need more protein. 

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Drink lots of water.  Maybe you have noticed how you have to pee more, now that you are pregnant? When you are pregnant your body needs a lot of water. My older sister likes to call it "refilling the swimming pool" and that means staying well hydrated. Soda and coffee doesn't count, juice is better than nothing but water is really what you need and you'll feel better for it. Early in all of my pregnancies I've had pretty frequent headaches. Drinking more water helps with that. If you get headaches too - remember to avoid Ibuprofen and other NSAID pain relievers while you are pregnant - especially in your third trimester.

Take a nap. This was my life saver. I could not get through a day without taking a nap, even just closing my eyes for twenty minutes or so was super-helpful. I have been able to cut back on napping this week and think I'll be able to take just one or two naps a week in my second trimester. 


Get active. This is the hardest part for me - since I'm usually feeling tired and would much rather sit and blog or take a nap than go out and move around but taking the time to play actively with my kids, take a walk or just going to the park - these all made me feel a lot better. Getting active for a half hour or so really helped to boost my overall energy.

Have a positive attitude. It is hard when you are uncomfortable all day long  day after day to stay positive but on those days when I just want to get in bed and wake up nine months later I remind myself about why I am feeling so puky and tired - there is a sweet baby growing inside of me. Or when my hormones are raging and it is hard to stay in control (or I am apologizing for loosing my temper again) and I feel overwhelmed and tempted to feel a little hopeless - I remind myself that life hasn't changed. It's still sweet, my kids are still good kids - that sometimes drive me crazy -  It's my body that has changed and made it harder to cope and harder to respond the way that I want to. I need to treat myself gently and be extra careful not to put myself (and my kids) into situations that are destined for meltdown. I take a moment to think about those ten sweet little fingers and kissable little toes, I think about that sweet little baby coming into my life and I remind myself of how much I will love our new one - how much I already love him or her. It keeps me going.

Josiah 10-2

I hope that these tips help, and I would LOVE to hear your first trimester survival tips!

Monday, January 3, 2011

It's back to school!

Miscellany Monday @ lowercase letters

Thanks for stopping by my new blog! If this is your first time here you might like to know that this blog is mostly a pregnancy journal. I am pregnant with my fifth baby (surprise! an unplanned but very welcome addition to our family) and am about eleven weeks along. I have three girls and a boy ages nine to three.

Pregnancy, so far - has been brutal. I know that there are lots of moms who have it way worse than I do and I am so glad that I have not had to take up permanent residence in the bathroom, but I've never had a pregnancy that is this uncomfortable, nauseating and exhausting. I am hoping that in a week or two my hormones will level out a bit and the sickness will wear out. The best thing about pregnancy so far is that my boobs are looking less floppy and pathetic that usual - I forgot how much I missed them. My husband says we should make a vitamin with pregnancy hormones so that they can be like this all of the time - he'd become a multi-millionaire if he did, I'm sure.

Today my oldest three kiddos went back to school and I'm not completely sure how I feel about it. I'm happy to be back in my routine and this morning went really well but I'll miss them... and I'll miss those lazy winter mornings we have been enjoying for the last two weeks.

During the last two weeks we have had weather ranging from in the twenties and snow (on Christmas day!) to in the sixties over the weekend. We spent the warm days at the park while the kids rode their scooters - so much easier to transport than bikes! I've been loving those park days - it feels so good to get out in the sunshine and move around a bit.

I've also been reading cookbooks. I've love to sit down with my kids while they are watching TV in the evening and read a cookbook, it is so relaxing and inspiring! I blogged about my cookbook reading on my other blog. I've been cooking all kinds of stuff other than the usual spaghetti and mac and cheese. I roasted a chicken with potatoes - which was wonderful, and made a couple different soups from scratch. Not cheaper or quicker but oh so much more satisfying.

I hate cheap diapers. I don't like paying ten bucks for a pack of diapers for my three year old (who is not cooperating with the potty-training process) either but I really don't like getting up at one in the morning to change a soaking diaper. Needless to say I think it's time to kick potty training into high gear and get it done this month. He can totally do it, he just doesn't want to.

And just because it's Monday - and it's a random kind of day, here is a random photo that I took of myself one day a few weeks ago in carpool with my camera phone. I love the light in this.

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a cell pic of me

from the day I took the pregnancy test

Sunday, January 2, 2011

Big news for Big Brother and Sisters

BIG brother!!

So here is the story of how we told our family our big new... and what the kids thought about it.

My little man and I took a trip to the local Babies R Us store hoping that we would be able to find an "I'm a brother" shirt and found this insanely cute one, which he loved. He insisted that he wear it that moment. 
I called my husband.  "He wants to wear the shirt now."  I told him, to which his reply was an emphatic no, he wanted to wait until Christmas. 

So I tucked the shirt away and smiled as my little man chattered away to his sisters about his new shirt that he was going to wear on Christmas... and I waited.

On Christmas day at Grammy's house we gave Josiah his new shirt... it took a minute for everyone to catch on, first the aunts and uncles then their cousin, finally the kids who said "No, my mom isn't pregnant" and we said "yes, she is." 

Then comes the reaction. It was pretty much exactly what I expected but still a challenge to respond well to each of them.

Big Sister #1 says I don't want another baby. 

Yep. I thought you'd say that, sweetie. I told her that I understood, I listened to her complain about how she would never have any time with us with another little to contend with. I reassured her that we would work hard to make sure that she had special times with just us... and told Daddy that he'd need to take a minute to talk with his baby girl. 

Yep. My hubs is a superhero. After their little chat her attitude improved about 80% in the span of about ten minutes and she started talking about baby names. sigh a child after my own heart. I love to hear her discuss with her sisters what we should name the baby. She suggested Edward as a good baby name. I reminded her that we really couldn't name our baby after a popular vampire - to which she replied "Oh yeah, we wouldn't want the baby to scare himself." ha!

Big Sister #2 starts to cry.

I start to have a flashback to when my mom told my sisters and me that we were going to have another baby and my little sister started to cry. So I assume that these are happy tears. She is slightly offended that we kept this a secret from her for so long. I really wish I had told her earlier, but I don't think she would have kept the secret and the hubs really had his heart set on making a big announcement at Christmastime. 

She beings to obsess about the new baby. She draws him/her a picture. She tells her sisters to be quiet because we do not want to disturb the new baby. Every day she asks how big the baby is. Every night she wants to give my belly and extra hug and kiss before she goes to bed. 

Big Sister #3 still a little confused.

Wait a second... Mommy is pregnant? She doesn't look pregnant to me. Yeah... I'm still waiting for the light bulb moment but it hasn't come yet for her. I'm not worried - she'll hop on board the baby wagon soon enough.

Big Brother I love my baby.

It took him a couple days before he realized what it means that he is a "big brother" but once I told him that he had to be more gentle with Mommy because I have a baby in my belly he caught on really quickly. Every day he asks me if I still have that baby in my belly and if it is going to grow and grow and then come out so he can hold his new baby. I think it is so very sweet that he calls this baby "his" baby. I have always known that he would be a fantastic big brother. From the time he was 18 months and following around all the moms with strollers to watching him now with my friend's babies he is always very gentle and kind. 
LOVE his smile.

It is always tempting to worry about older siblings... how will they adjust to having a new baby in the house, will they accept the newest addition... but I try to just let those worries go and make an extra effort to make sure I take the time to let each of my kids know how special they are to me. From letting my oldest make dinner with me, to spending an extra minute with my youngest at bedtime. Those moments are really important - and when those moments happen nearly every day I think my little ones feel secure in my love and we both know that even if life gets a little crazy sometimes. We're going to be okay. 

When I first found out that we were going to have another baby I spent a lot of time on pregnancy message board and browsing through some of the blog frog forums to find out what other moms did to announce their news - how about you? how did you share the big news with your family? Do you have any worries about siblings adjusting to the new baby?